Perhaps the life seems to have gone out of your partnership, or maybe you’ve hit an unexpected impasse. Either way, you’re committed to finding a way through.  If what you want is a mutually satisfying relationship with staying power, then you’ve come to the right place.  Do you ever find yourself having thoughts like these?

• We keep having the same arguments over and over without resolution.  We’re stuck in a pattern that we feel powerless to change.  How can we deal with recurring issues that we’ve never successfully resolved?
  
• Our life together is undergoing a major change (e.g. career change, raising children, relocating, health changes, aging parents, retirement, etc.) The status quo has been disrupted, and it’s disorienting.  How can we work together to move into this new phase?
  
• Something’s gone flat. How do we reclaim the passion and connection we used to have?
  
• There’s been a significant breach or betrayal of trust.  Is there any way we can restore trust and get back to having things be good again?
  
• The things that I / we / my partner wanted when we first got together have shifted.  We want to stay together but we don’t know how to accommodate the ways that we’ve changed.
  
• When we argue, anything’s fair game.  Attacks get personal and we wind up bringing in old hurts and grievances.  We can’t seem to stay focused on the topic at hand. 
  
• I want to bring more of a spirit of curiosity, exploration, discovery, and delight into my partnership.
  
• I often “lose” myself in relationship.  How do I honor my own needs and still stay connected to my partner?
  
• How can we create and sustain a quality love relationship?
  

If more than 2 or 3 of these rang true for you, then I can help.  When people are finished working with me, they thank me for things like this:

• We’ve co-designed a future that we’re both excited about and committed to producing
  
• We’re able to have conversations that we never knew how to have before
  
• We can talk about hard things without defensiveness or blame
  
• We each can see our own role in the breakdowns we face, so we each have the power to do something to fix it
  
• We’re not as reactive to one another as we have been in the past
  
• I feel more comfortable in my body now, and I have more of an appetite for sexual intimacy with my partner